By Minister Bagley, Sr. M.C.C
She’s riding the bus to work, looking at a young man, in the way he dresses. She’s trying to look past the ghetto of his image, noticing the quiet way he is sitting there. “What makes him the way he is?” she whispers to herself while she feels the beat pulsating within her chest in wanting a man to love her, all while dropping her head because she knows all she is being presented with is the ghetto of them. Why?
So many say that it is “flesh” that causes the sins of the world—for her to see what she sees in him, in them, and the way she feels deep inside of her heart. They who say this don’t know that God made flesh, fools are they… Don’t be fooled my lady, there are two worlds that God made, that God has given us: first the physical by forming us, second the Spiritual because He breathed into our bodies making us a living soul. Therefore, “flesh” is the cheap answer, the wrong answer.
If you have a man standing in front of you, that man became what he is from the development of being a young boy, and that young boy from his parents. Therefore, the man that stands in front of you is the product of who birthed him and the pain and joys throughout his life. When you strip his environment away, all you will see is his identity. It is that identity which he is trying to make, or live out.
A man who wants to change his identity is a man who wants to change his environment, a man who wants to change his lifestyle. The problem is he lives in an environment and within that, he could be lost. So, what does this mean to you? If you find a man that you can deal with, being a biblical woman, help that man by presenting change. If he looks at you and tells you that he is willing to change, he will, no matter what. He might be ok for you. Know this, you MUST help him to that degree of seriousness. He is going to open up and he will be fragile because he is challenging his lifestyle, his environment, and his identity. You must help him through everything, do not give him any reasons for not making it. If he fails, then you have failed as a help mate.
On the other hand, if that woman on the bus presented change to him and he tells her, “That’s nice” she better run, he is not ready for someone who is real, as she is. He is not ready to change his lifestyle, his environment, nor his image. So, he is in the way he is and wants to be. In the end, he will take that heart of hers, use it up, and abuse her, and when he finishes with her, she will be no good for any man.
My brothers, know this, a woman has power, but not over you. If you have someone that is a helper, she is just that, a helper. If you fail in life, it is not because of the “white man” or any crap like that. You fail because first, you look at that woman as a crutch and you are not standing on your own. God is your head and by you looking at her you have taken God out of order.
Do not be abusive, be love, but be a leader and take no crap from anyone. If “they” don’t give it to you, which they won’t, then make it yourself and walk out to your new future. Stop with your excuses, let her help if she can, and if she will not, put her aside. The true helper sees the other side, meaning this, if you look up, she is to look down and around to protect you. If you trust her, (Proverbs 31:11-12) I promise you both will be free together.
Secondly, you fail because you have no vision. What I mean is this, God gives everyone a gift, and in your gift you do not believe in that gift, meaning in yourself, which means in your future. You will fail in life because the lack of vision, which is the lack of belief in yourself.
What this also does is slap God in His face. He has given you that gift, and by you not believing, you let yourself down, more importantly, you let God down by not being what He made you to be. If you lack the trust in God, you leave God; you left your head, so you left your vision, possibly your soul.
He slowly turns and looks at her in her. Their eyes lock. He pauses then grabs his bag and gets up, and head towards her. She looks at him and her heart beats hard with the thought of his coming. He sits across from her looking at her; looking at each other, as the bus rides on. He asks her, in a manly gentle voice, “Would you like to go out with me some day?” She crosses her legs, looking out the window to see where she is. Turning slowly back to him and said, “Ok.”
To be continued: The Date
Shone Bagley, Sr.
Joy 1340 – Sundays @ 4:30pm