By: Pastor Shone Bagley, Sr., Ordained/M.C.C.
Shone Bagley, Sr.
To close out my writing on “Where is the Love?” let me say that we have to consider the physical and Spiritual side of all humans. However, many people know of God and Jesus, and do not know or don’t care to understand God’s word when it comes to love.
For example: Seventy-two percent of black babies are born to unmarried mothers today, according to government statistics.[1]
These women love to love and have someone love them. But when it comes to having a man they know not what it means to be loved, nor does he know what it means to have the agape’ love of God as Christ towards the woman. They have sex as a way to submit to each other’s desires but the relationship is fallen – as the relationship has fallen to God. Sex to feel like they belong, but not knowing how to hold on.
How can any woman say, “I love God.” when she cannot treat her man as a Christ? In addition, how can a man love God when he cannot be a Christ to his woman? Does anyone know what this means? I say, “No” because the evidence is what we see and others see – 70% of babies will not know what it means to be a Christ, or how to treat a Christ. Instead, they will grow up not knowing the true love of God, only knowing the true love of the streets, of society who kicked God out. The 70% will only know to touch and kiss and to have sex in a physical way while they grow up being abused, and hurt and wondering what is wrong. Wondering and building sub-thought and feelings and when a true man comes along all the pain and her wonders and disbelief is released onto him and he leaves.
The fact is, when it comes to Love the physical is a direct relation to the Spirit, of self, of God. To help you out, love is not through the body, nor through the feelings, but of a spiritual link between a man, a woman, and God. There will be nothing to satisfy your heart except a spiritual connection; first by you and God and then by you and your mate – opposite sex.
What to do?
- Repent to God. God is your Spiritual Father even if you don’t know it.
- Read from the bible what it means to be — if you don’t believe in Jesus it’s ok – find out about you first…
- A man/woman
- A husband/a wife
- A brother/a sister
- Date – and trust until they cannot be trusted.
- Do not give “crap” a second chance
- Give someone who is willing to try to understand a second and third and if needed a fourth try
- No sex!!! – know their heart, know their desires, know them before you “know them” the pain is lesser if they must go.
- Don’t expect anything – see them where they are:
- Bodies will fall
- Money will get tight
- Love will always last
Which one are you looking for? If you expect the end of what a person should be, then how can God give you someone to grow with? Your only expectation should be of one where there is growth.
- If one day turns out to be a good day –
- Give thanks to God for that day
- Go back and reread the bible and now read what it means for them to be:
- A man/woman
- A husband/a wife
- A brother/a sister
- Do not worry – be patient Every day you worry you tell God you don’t trust Him Focus on YOU: in dressing up your home, your working habits, your heart for that one God is going to send you to grow together
The point of these steps is to prep you for God and your physical mate to love. You have to know YOU first, and then prep YOU before God can send you anyone. Note that these are only steps, you have to do the work, physically, and spiritually. By combining them God will complete you when you’re ready.
Note:[1] Washington Post – http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/11/06/AR2010110602362.html
In Love
Minister Shone Bagley, Sr.
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