Shone Bagley, Sr.
He puts the napkin down after wiping his mouth clean as if to say that it was all great. She looks at him while putting her fork down, knowing that she did good, giving him a smile as if to say you are welcome. He puts both of his elbows on the table, takes a deep breath, he says, “What is it that you are really looking for,” looking deep into her eyes, “because, I don’t have anything to offer.” She wipes her mouth, thinking just for a second in how to answer, then says “I am not looking for anything.”
To the brothers, to say that you have nothing to offer is to say that you are of the world and not of God. Yes, the bible teaches that we are to provide and to have possession of things, even Apostle Paul owned a tent making company. But, to focus on the “things” of this world is not to focus on God and that in itself is a sin.
Let us say you don’t have a car, or a house, or a job, or money, or even looks … you are still a child of God, you are still a man of God and within that you have dominion over all living things. God placed within you gifts and talents and God calls you blessed when you find a good woman.
To tell any woman, or even to tell yourself, you have nothing to offer is to slap God in His face and says you are a slave to this world, to your situation, and a slave within your mind. A free man is not determined by the stuff he has but by who he is within his mind. First a child of God, second a leader, third a brother to all except to your family.
To my sisters, first, by you saying to any brother you are “looking for nothing” is a form of pride. Of course you are looking for something, if nothing but a good man to be your head. Speaking of, the church is fine to be your covering but it is better to have a man over you, this is after all where God stated:
Genesis 1:27-28 ( KJV ) 27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. 28And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
God not only placed man and woman together but within that relationship blessed them. What I want you to understand, even though man is the head, ALL men need a good woman because together is where men have complete dominion, have complete blessings. We need you to know who you are and especially to know what you want.
Secondly I want you to think on this: to tell a man what it is you want is not to say you want a car, a house, things of this world. When you look for a man to be your provider you take him and you put the stress on him of being your provider. He is the head, and yes he is to be a provider, but God is to be his head and you are to be his helpmate, and God is the one who provides all—God blessed “them.”
This means: as long as the man is walking in God’s will, God will provide for him and the man will provide for the family. To know who you are is to know that you were created as a helpmate, and to say to that man, “What is it that I can do to help you do God’s will?” To know what you want is to know who you are in God and the type of man you want so when God sends your man you will recognize him and know God’s will for you to be his helpmate. In turn, you both can do God’s will as God wills it to be done. You will not know that until you know who you are in God and this only comes when you first submit to God.
To all, when you are dating you are there to know what it is you like without falling into the trap of having sex or getting head over heels for someone just because they have an interest in you. It is ok to open up and express your wants and desires. But, if God is not first then all things in your relationship will fall by the wayside. The submission to God should be the beginning of any date, in any relationship.
To be continued:
The Dinner pt 3
Special Note:
In the month of September I will be starting my Bible Study class for those who want a little more of what they are or are not getting. Call or go to my web site for more details if you would like to attend.
Shone Bagley, Sr.
414-699-1962
www.shonebagley.com
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