Minister Bagley, Sr. M.C.C.
He stands in front of her house thinking to himself, “What am I doing? No car, no job and the little I do have I am about to spend it on someone I don’t know.” He looks down the street on his right, then his left as if to find an escape exit. He takes a deep breath and begins to walk to her front door…
In the bathroom, she finished putting on a little smell good. A once look over in the mirror, “I hope I’m doing the right thing” she speaks within a whisper. With a deep breath, “Get it together” and she walks out.
Ring… Ring… the door bell goes. Her heart drops with the uncertainty behind her actions of letting him come to her house for dinner. She opens the door… “Hello.” “Hello,” he replies.
“Please come in, I hope you don’t mind but I decided to cook for us. I thought it would be better than going out and spending money” she said as he can tell of her self-conscious body language.
“You’re not tricking me, are you?” he said with a coy smile. “No, come on in” she says as she leads him in.
So many churches deny this process of dating openly. Everyone is so concerned about the “image” that it portrays. In fact, what the churches are doing is saying that they don’t trust the individual and they judge—judging that they will commit a sin, a sin that is not against man but against God. The image is to be the light, and as long as one shows off that light, who are we to judge when it comes for a man and a woman to date!
1 Corinthians 7:34 (KJV) 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
Within this dinner date lays the transition between she who is single and she who wants to be married. God is the one who led the woman to the man (Gen. 2:22). Therefore, this implies the woman is the initiator. This is one of the reasons why women have to be holy, to allow God, who is holy, to lead her.
The transition from being single can only take place if she allows him to come into her life within a date. What better way than to show off one of her talents and cook for him. In return, she is given the impression of him which helps her determine if this is the type of man she is willing to let be her head, when it comes to marriage.
However, keep in mind this is only the first date and it is not the time to make a decision, but to observe him—collecting data and building a depiction of his character. In time and over time, with God, she can feel comfortable about making her choice in marrying her man and making him her head, God leading her to her Adam.
To my brothers: When it comes to the bible, yes it talks about working and providing, and all types of things that we should be when it comes to marriage. However, point one is to know slavery came onto us over 400 years ago and we are slowly climbing out of this s—t hole. It is not about our looks or our bodies because this is to some all you have to offer; but it is about our spirit and our relationship with God. Within that relationship with God is where you are going to find your identity, of not being a slave, but of being a free man who has the image and likeness of God and has His authority called dominion over every living creature—including those who are trying to hold you down, called Satan. You have a choice that has nothing to do with women and that is, “Are you running or are you standing tall in your God given rights as a son of God?” The choice will determine your outlook and outcome when it comes to your lifestyle, your future, and any woman.
Point two: when you go on a date with a woman, it is all about her identity. “Will this woman be the type of woman you need, according to God’s will for you, to be your helpmate?” If you do not know what God has for you then you will not know the type of woman you need to be your helpmate. And when you don’t know what God’s will is for you… sex, money and Satan influenced women is what is waiting for you… death of your dreams, death of your lifestyle, and possibly death of your soul.
When you don’t know God as my brother in the story does, you will walk into a trap every time!
To be continued:
The Dinner pt2
Shone Bagley, Sr
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