Shone Bagley, Sr.
She wakes with the anticipation of meeting him again. Jumps out of bed and opens her closet to see what she will wear… sexy or subtle… she whispers to herself.
To the world, sexy seems to be the norm. However, in dating there is a danger in being sexy…
When you look sexy, you bring out the hormones in a man. What this does? When he talks to you, sex is on his mind. Meaning this: he is not hearing what you have to say about YOU. What he is hearing are the openings that will let him get closer to you. In other words, so he can tell you what you want to hear. The motive: sex.
Down the line you take a chance in being with someone who you truly don’t know if they want to be with you for YOU, or just for sex. It would be such a heartbreak, when you bring up the idea of commitment and change, he then looks at you and laughs at you. That is what he is doing if you are having sex with him and there is no commitment like marriage. It then will be too late, you giving your body to another, feelings of disappointment come in, rejection and being used sets in your self-esteem.
Don’t get trapped in thinking that a man would only like you if you’re showing off your body. Show him your mind, and if he stays, he stays because of YOU.
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He puts on a button shirt and nice pants and starts to brush his hair. His mother comes in his room to see how he is doing, “Son, how are you doing?” she asks. As he looks into the mirror brushing his hair he says, “Fine.” His mother sits on the corner of his bed and says, “If she is too sexy, know that she might not have anything to offer except her body” with a long pause as if waiting for an acknowledgment. “Don’t get trapped. You have so much ahead of you.” In another breath, “Proverbs 31:3 Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.”
He looks through the mirror at his mother, “Mom I know. We are just having dinner, not sex.” She gets up from the bed, rubs the back of his head, “You missed a spot.” As his mom starts to walk out of his room, “Have a good evening, my son.” “I love you” she says as she closes the door.
To “give not your strength” is to stay in control. It is a natural thing to feel the hormones for an attractive woman. However, when you start to listen to her instead of God you will bring cursing.
Genesis 3:17 ( KJV ) 17 And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life;
As a man you must grow into an independent man, free of all that is wrong in life. If you can, then you can truly do what is right in God’s eyesight. If you cannot, such as falling into the trap of a sexy woman, then pain will follow. Pain because God placed you as a leader, and the woman to be your helpmate. If she is your head then both of you are out of order, allowing Satan to come and devour you both up. And what was a beautiful thing that God ordained turns into hell on Earth.
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When you go out on a date, you are not there to see if he or she likes you. You date only to see if you like them. Talk about where you are and where you are heading and see if they are on the same track. Like a train set up with an engine car and a fuel car, with God being the tracks you both ride on. If the engine car, the man, is heading one way and the fuel car, the woman, is heading another direction, then both of you will be going nowhere, even if you both stand on God. One cannot work without the other and one is not more important than the other, God just stated the engine is the head and the fuel is the helpmate, but they NEED EACH OTHER. How are to find if he or she is truly equally yoked if all you’re doing is showing off? When will the real you come out… after it is too late?
To be continued: The Dinner
Shone Bagley, Sr.
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